Valentine's Day for those who have a broken heart

In honor of Valentine’s Day, I thought I would send this out reminding all of the people out there of the number one person you need to celebrate before you celebrate others: Yourself. [Okay, first God, and then yourself.]

I've always heard the rhetorical question, how can you love others if you can’t love yourself? How do you expect others to love you if you can’t love yourself? We’ll go into that in a second.

First of all, I want to reach out to the people who have a broken heart, whether from an unrequited love or over a break-up. This is for you today.

He doesn't deserve you. The guy that wants to be there 100% is going to be there 100%. He will never say he's too busy, because he will MAKE the time to be with you. Same goes for her. Anyone who wants to be there WILL be there. 

I know it hurts to think that he wasn't that into you, but at the same time, he's not and that's a good thing because now you are not going to waste your time and you have more time to find the love of your life.

So if you have given your heart to someone who put it on a dusty shelf, you better take it right back. Who are they to decide your heart is something they can just hold on to? Love isn't a one way thing. You exchange your hearts and proudly display it for the world, not keep it on a shelf. If someone can’t accept your love, then you need to do an about-face and run the hell out of there. It is a learning experience, so take it as it is and move on. Don't regret it, because now that you know what you want, you can look for it in someone better.

 
A priest once told me that women need to have their heart broken three times before they can find The One. That means falling in love and having your heart shattered. It sucks, but seriously, you are going to find guys that are better and better until they can't get any better because he's THE ONE!

By the way, that guy is a jack-ass if he doesn't realize how amazing you are. And if he didn't, it’s probably because you didn't.

Here we go, LOVING YOURSELF. 

Just think about it. The only person that matters in the world to you needs to be you. And you don't think that you are worthy of love, or that you are worthy of a guy, or that you deserve anything. Seriously, on some level, that's how you are thinking. You can't let yourself get down like that. You need to realize that you ROCK. 

This is something that I’ve told people in the past and they really liked it. So I’m going to say it to you. This is how I learned to love myself.

1. Tell yourself that you don't even deserve yourself.
2. Remind yourself that no one deserves you.
3. Find a goal that you feel will make you a better person.
4. Work hard to deserve yourself.
Once you finally deserve yourself (mine was losing 50lbs and passing my double jury—music thing), then that's when someone will be able to deserve you. 

By then, you'll have so much self esteem (self esteem, not over confidence or an ego), that NO one can deserve you. You will have worked so hard at loving yourself, that you will see that you are worthy of love. Not just some random crush, real love. You will love yourself so much that your eyes will be open to who is and who is not good for you. You will appreciate yourself and want to find someone who will appreciate you too.

You have to really think that. NO ONE DESERVES ME. And the person who realizes that he doesn’t deserve you, is the one who is meant for you. (Ryan still says he doesn't deserve me, every day.)

So say to yourself, I AM WORTHY OF LOVE, and THE PERSON WHO REALIZES THAT HE DOESN'T DESERVE ME IS THE ONE THAT REALLY DOES. 

And then you'll find it. 

I hope you realize how beautiful you are inside and out. Remember that you are a beautiful child of God. Don't be pessimistic and always think, "How can I bounce back, get over it, and move on with my life?" Then do it. Don't just think about it, actually BOUNCE back and move on with your life. That's just how it is.

Good luck with your loves in the future. And with your life! Remember, this is your LIFE; you only get one chance at it. There's no turning back. Every second you let go by, is a second that you can never get back. Don't waste it on someone that doesn’t appreciate your worth., as hard as it is not to...because really, you won't get that time back.


Live by my motto, it has helped me (and then get your own lol)

Live LIFE, Laugh Often, Love ALWAYS, Make Mistakes NEVER Regret, and DARE TO DREAM.


Have a wonderful Valentine's Day and always remember that you are loved. God bless